WHICH IS IT: DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT OR DOES LIKE ATTRACT LIKE?

Most of us have heard the saying, “Opposites attract.”  It’s also said, “Like attracts like.”  Okay, so…which is it? 

Take the example of a married couple where one is a tightwad and the other a spendthrift.  On the surface, they’re extreme opposites.  One spends their last dollar and the other still has their first.  You can’t get more opposite than that, right?  Look a little more closely.  What is the issue?  Money and that is where they are alike.  They both have issues around money and finances.  They may have even unconsciously attracted each other to work out their extreme issues regarding money. 

Another example, not far from the money issue, is someone who hoards everything and is living with someone who keeps nothing but the clothes on their back.  Again, seeming opposites, right?  But the issue is an inability to achieve a balanced sense of flow in life.  In all likelihood, the ability to give and take as well as to receive and release can be challenging for them.

Take a look at your relationships both past and present.  Were any of them with people who seemed to be your complete opposite?  Now take a step back and look at the broader issues where being opposites showed up.  Could having work to do around this broader issue be how you’re alike?  Understanding something as simple, yet obscure as this can go a long way towards helping our relationships work better.

The answer to the question, which is it, do “Opposites attract,” or does “Like attract like,” is both.  

It’s Not Either/Or, But Both

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